What is calmness? For me personally \u00a0it means to take a deep breath in challenging situations, to gain inner clarity. Also, it means that if I meet aggressive people I stop myself from \u201csending an instant reply\u201d. It is a fact that impulsive reactions to accusations result from being hurt in our childhood. Also, it is evident that there are many people who try to \u201cget rid\u201d of their inner dissatisfaction by \u201cattacking\u201d others verbally. If I notice such a \u00a0\u201cmaneuver\u201d I remain silent and observe what is happing inside me. By setting my boundaries in silence I leave the vicious circle of justification and disrespect. Sometimes I achieve this \u201ccalmness\u201d and sometimes not. I try not to judge myself for \u201cnot succeeding\u201d because I am still practising. However, if I do succeed it feels weird. Just as if I could have convinced the other that I am ok by words and explanations. Now I am conscious that it is even more important that I think of myself as \u201cokay\u201d. Like that I can- similar to self-defense in Tai Chi \u2013 put a distance between myself and the aggressor by using my inner power and keeping my energy level high. There is an anecdote from the House of Lords: A lord was insulted strongly by another member of Parliament. He however, remained calm and walked away with a smile on his face. Another representative asked him: -“Why didn\u2019t you defend yourself?” \u2013\u201cIt wasn\u2019t necessary.\u201d answered the lord. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
This is what I wanted to share with you, dear readers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Renate Weber<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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